Conquering my sugar addiction on the way to #TheNext15
I was never a big fan of sweets. In my twenties, especially my early to mid-20s, I was a heavy drinker. When I drink alcohol, I never want sweets. If I get the munchies I always want something savory...
View ArticleKeep going
Thought of the day! The only thing standing between you and success is you. Failure is only where we choose to stop, if we keep going, even slowly, we will meet our goals. Don’t let your preconceived...
View ArticleKeeping empathy in the mental health system
I was going to write part two of my sugar addiction piece, but my day today won’t leave my mind. When I was 21 years old I got an F in a class and dropped out of college. To this day, twelve years...
View ArticleDear stranger: I am not a bitch
Long before someone coined the phrase “bitchy resting face” I developed a habit of softening my face and wearing a pasted on slight smile whenever I’m in public. Not because I suffer from BRF, I don’t,...
View ArticleWhy I stayed
When I was about fourteen years old, I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. It was my first “love” relationship, one that would set the stage for what I believed a love relationship should be....
View ArticleI was sexually assaulted by an ex
This is the piece that preceded the “Why I Stayed” post. I shared it in a note on facebook but then I lost the nerve to post it publicly. It’s taken me a long time to be able to type these words: I was...
View ArticleMy dog taught me how to love without limits
I have been talking about writing this post for about two years. This morning, I decided it was finally time! In early February 2012, I caught sight of a beautiful blonde on facebook. She was a little...
View ArticleUnicorns, healthy relationships, and other things I did not know actually...
There’s an old adage that when you meet the “right” person, you just know. Me being me, I’ve always wanted to know, how do you know that you know? I’m a recovering “love” addict, a codependent, and I...
View ArticleUnicorns and healthy relationships, part 2
Continued from my previous post As it turned out, the cute math professor liked my crazy socialist rant. There are some guys that will do just about anything to get laid, but it seemed...
View ArticleDating while borderline
When I wrote my posts about meeting and getting into a relationship with my boyfriend, Jon, I used a tag “dating while borderline” which amused me. I started thinking about how dating and relationships...
View ArticleFear and change
Have you ever noticed that human beings are ridiculously awful at dealing with change? It’s ironic, because change is the only inevitable thing in life. That classic Benjamin Franklin quote about death...
View ArticleReal or imagined abandonment
There is a portion of the DSM (the Diagnostic and Statistic Manual of Mental Disorders, published by the American Psychiatric Association, currently in its 5th edition. The DSM is what we use to help...
View ArticleFinding balance
Balance is something that is essential in a healthy life. Everywhere we look, we see balance – in the seasons; the land bleeding into the sky; light and dark. The Chinese philosophy of yin and yang...
View ArticleDialectical Behavioral Therapy – DBT
In my last two posts, I have mentioned DBT, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. Jon suggested that I need to make a post about what DBT is and how it works. There is a LOT of information on internet about...
View ArticleGetting past the past
I have a new therapist. I’ve had many therapists over the years, some amazing and some really awful. One thing that you have to do when you first go to therapy (either for the first time or just the...
View ArticleEmpathy in intimate relationships
My new therapist is pretty great. I am really lucky to have had some really amazing therapists over the years (one even writes for psychcentral.) I’ve also had a couple who weren’t as great, ranging...
View ArticleMy therapist doesn’t like me and other weirdass stuff no one talks about
Going to see a new therapist is always a bit intimidating, whether you’ve been in therapy before or are going for the very first time. Counseling is something that is supposed to be a safe place; a...
View ArticleCan there be holiday magic for adults?
Have you noticed, a lot of people really don’t like the holidays? For years, I was pretty much the only one of my friends that got excited about the holidays. I even had a way of somehow finding myself...
View ArticleWhy I want to get married again (someday)
Otherwise known as the “how to really freak out your boyfriend” post. :) The holiday season, which seems to now stretch from Halloween through Valentine’s Day, is apparently a time when a lot of people...
View ArticleGetting back on track with weight loss
Cross-posted from my The Healthy Food Whore blog. In the last ten months, a lot has happened! Some really good – I met and got into a relationship with a wonderful man whom I love very deeply; I...
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